When your belief system (mindset) is that there are no quality or emotionally available men out there, there aren’t. When your belief is abundant, then there are. When you seek only love you see nothing else. Love is when you find someone who is your best friend and you can be yourself around them. When you believe love is possible and you send that energy out, your chances are much greater for finding love then when you believe it will not happen. Ok friends tell me why I am wrong?
About Jonathon Aslay
Dating is a challenge for everyone. Regardless of age or circumstance, we all struggle to find our perfect match. As someone who has graduated with honors from life’s virtual University of Dating, Jonathon Aslay assists women in finding that seemingly elusive man with whom they can have both compatibility and passion.
How can we say you are wrong, when you are not!!!! These are all truisms. To prove your point, as of lately, I have been on that rollercoaster of negative thinking, and where has it gotten me? Very long and lonely nights! Perhaps, just perhaps, I should go back to my old ways, which is to think positively and to believe that I will find love again.. . and I just need to put myself out there again
I believe in the Law of Attraction like attracts like. If you believe in abundance you will have abundance. If you believe your life sucks then your life will suck. What ever you focus on and believe is what you will receive. So my friend I can NOT say that you are wrong. Can you say that I am wrong?
It is not that there are not. Of course, when you adopt a positive attitude towards something, you are more likely to succeed, no question about that.
It is that you’ve got to find one who matches you + right timing on top.
Not only a best friend and someone you can be yourself around. Also somebody who can keep up (physically, intellectually and emotionally) and you can share enough with on an equal level. Plus there must be that mutual “spark” or you remain just that : friends.
Response to Dina’s comment on FB, if you can’t believe then it will not exist for you. Yes, I am a man who can communicate his feelings and emotions, there are an abundance of men who can communicate the same if not more than I do.
I agree, except my beliefs go deeper; when we unconsciously feel undeserving or angry: we will attract whatever is below the surface. Our unconscious mind is about 80% of our mind and it is the part of our computer that is programmed to react and not analyze. That is why we can tell ourselves that we will find the perfect man, but if on the unconscious level we do not feel worthy; we will not find anything close to what we are visualizing.
That is why I work on people subconscious programs to allow them to really get rid of those limiting beliefs.
Tammy you are dead on…. *smiles*
I know this is not the correct place for this post, but I just listened to the call with Morgana, and these questions are the ones I did not ask in advance:
Isn’t it basically ridiculous for women to spend all the time we do consumed with relationships? Do men even spend 1/100 of the time we do? And aren’t they infinitely more happier than we are as a result?
I don’t know if they are more happy, its their nature, maybe they would like to be the way we are, then again, why should be compare who is more happy? Sara Malamud
Thumbs up for Chantaal’s comment!
Yup, alignment between our subconscious mind and conscious mind is paramount . . . otherwise it is just talk (by the conscious mind.)
. . . And it is not just “worthiness” I am referring . . . Sometimes, people’s conscious mind can tell them that they want something, but truly subconsciously they don’t want it, or not ready for it, then they don’t attract what they say they want because their subconscious is having them react or produce a way of being that doesn’t have them attract what they say they want.
“Isn’t it basically ridiculous for women to spend all the time we do consumed with relationships? Do men even spend 1/100 of the time we do? And aren’t they infinitely more happier than we are as a result?”
LOL, yes it is, but this is how we’re built, this is what women do–we’re relationship oriented. Not only with men, also with friends, business associates, family, etc. There is no changing this.
Just like men want sex, bottom line. That’s NOT all they want, that has how mean are built–there’s no changing it.
We can say it SHOULD be different–do we want to be ‘right’ or do we want to be happy?
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