Walking In Your Man’s Moccasins
Empathy comes naturally for most women, and that’s one of the major reasons why men love them. And while we accept the idea that men still pursue women, dating today has changed drastically over the last few decades. Are women keeping abreast (no pun intended) of how this affects a man’s basic instincts?
Did you know: When a man can please a woman and make her happy, it makes him feel successful.
With women being more financially independent than ever before, the male drive to be a “provider” has been, well, squelched, so to speak. He may impress a woman with his accomplishments, but the glory has been toned down by women who want more feminine attributes from a man than a big paycheck.
Add to that the barrage of new standards women are setting for men they date. Men need to be more sensitive, open with their feelings, and keep up with their housekeeping and cooking skills. In the end, this can equate to men feeling defeated in their attempts to woo modern women. Men are more confused, and struggling to keep up with women than ever before. Thought you had it tough to figure out dating today? You’re not alone!
Did you know: When a man feels he can’t make a woman happy, it can knock the wind out of his sails.
Did I mention how the economy has also affected the male dynamic of being financially secure when courting a woman? And there are LOTS of good men struggling to get by these days, and the shame, frustration, and vulnerability can cause them to back away from even trying to win a woman’s heart. The last thing they’re looking for is a set of high expectations and demands of what kind of man they should be– when they just can’t meet the bar.
Did you know: A woman can make a man’s day by showing her appreciation for all he does.
What can you do to understand today’s man in the dating world? Try to step into his moccasins, and see how he feels about his surroundings. Your man is under a lot of pressure, so be gentle before you judge him. Showing that you can relate and care will soften the walls he might build in his own protection.
And if you didn’t know, men find sympathetic women super attractive!
Thanks, Jonathon for being one of the good guys…and for sharing your winning ways with us…your blog is fabulous 🙂
I agree with your article. I know one of the biggest turn-ons to me about a man is when I feel understood by him, and when he is sensitive to me. I want to be the same, and…
…I feel so embarrassed. When I was on the phone with R, he abruptly changed the subject, asking me what my understanding is of his condition.
I didn’t have my thoughts gathered, and I just starting blabbing! He said, “No, that’s not it at all.” I felt bad, because I want to honor him by being sensitive and understanding to him. I wished I had said I needed to think about it for a minute. My cheeks still feel hot with embarrassment a half hour later. He said it didn’t upset him, but I can’t help it after he ended our conversation abruptly.