Avoiding The Trap of a Virtual Relationship
Right now you might be reading this on your smartphone or sitting in front of your computer screen. These days we’re all so connected to the virtual world. This connection even includes dating, mating and relating.
There are those who will spend days, weeks, months and even years connecting via cyber space with no real intention of meeting for an in person date. Many sit behind a computer in their safe space feeling fulfilled with just a virtual relationship. For those looking for a serious relationship who have connected with these types, can we agree it’s frustrating?
My recommendation is very simple, if you are connecting with someone online, whether a dating site or a social media connection is to do the following: if they live within reasonable geographical proximity, try a few emails (including IM), a phone call or two and then plan the date. This weeds out those cyber daters and allows you to connect in real time. If you find yourself getting sucked in to cyber chatting, ask yourself do you want a virtual relationship or a real in person one? If you want a real in person relationship and you’re struggling in the virtual world, then try my Single & Looking Pack to learn online dating tips to successfully meeting your guy via the internet.
So please remember this important tip to avoiding the trap of virtual relationship. A few emails back and forth, take the next step to a few phone conversations and then say yes to a date. This will weed out those cyber daters very quickly (you know, the ones only seeking a virtual relationship). Relationship ready men want to meet you, so if he’s only seeking you out in the cyber world, time to say NEXT.
Good luck and let me know how online dating is working for you.
Now let me ask you, with the advent of facebook (and other social media avenues) are there just some who prefer living in the virtual world and what is the real attraction (and cause) to a cyber relationship?
Good question. I think people prefer to live in the virtual world because there’s less vulnerability. If you don’t open yourself up to real interactions and the possibility of love, you can’t get hurt, right?
Cheers to empowering women to take chances and find love! 🙂
“There are those who will spend days, weeks, months and even years connecting via cyber space with no real intention of meeting for an in person date.” Oh yeah. Very interesting. Like the guy who I met on facebook in December. We were introduced by our alumni and hit it off right away. He seemed quite interested in me but yet when the subject of calling came up, he claimed he doesn’t like to talk on the phone. Pleez! We had interaction every day and I mentioned it about a total of four times and then I just stopped. He obviously wants an online relationship only. He claims he is divorced and is alone for 3 years. While that maybe true, I suspect he has someone else and his actions did not match up with his words. He claims he is interested in me and won’t call!!!!! That’s crazy. Anyway, I slowly drifted away from him as I have no time to waste with a man who doesn’t like to talk on the phone. We just hail up each other now and then. I hailed him up today and he answered, but I am no longer interested and I believe he sees that.