Never Give Up On Your Dream, When Others Think It’s Fantasy
Last year I had the privilege to meet Buzz Aldrin, the second man to walk on the moon. Imagine that, I got a chance to shake hands with a man who stood 250,000 miles from Earth as he waved to us from across the heavens. America had a vision to travel in space and land on the moon. In days earlier, this would have been considered fantasy, the idea we could travel in space and land on the moon and yet the dream of America did happen.
So when it comes to dating, mating and relating having a vision and a dream is HUGELY important. Having a sense of knowing what you want in relationship helps attract love into your life. Without vision, how can you know where you are going?
So what does your ideal relationship look like, what’s your vision?
Are you looking for a man who can blend into your life, a man to spend regular activities together, a man to attend family events and getting together with friends? Are you looking for a man who you are attracted to and you have chemistry? Are you looking for a man who communicates in your love language and you spend hours and hours talking all night? Are you looking for a man who shares your same values? This list could go and on, am I right?
Creating the right vision is the first step and having an action plan will get you one step closer to meeting your dream guy.
Let’s face it, when we have a positive attitude towards love it’s far better than a negative one, this includes dating too. When your belief is that there are many great guys out there, you will begin to see them around every corner. Another thing is having a sense of how you can blend lives is vitally important to relationship success. If you can’t combine, then how can you mate and blending lives is how most relationships are formed for the long run. The big difference between desire and entitlement is expectations, those who feel entitled usually miss out on the gold vs. those who have true desire in their heart. Knowing what is out there and what to expect will balance you in the dating process. If you can’t been seen, how are you going to be asked out on dates? Your opportunities for meeting your dream guy is in direct correlation to the action plan you choose.
Have you tried online dating or meet up groups? Are you making male friend on facebook? The list is long and I’m here to help.
There are 5 areas I talk about in my coaching program and in my eCourse The Relationship Men Commit To and Why when it comes to finding love. These are:
- Mindset
- Lifestyle
- Expectations
- Opportunities
- Action Plan (where to meet him)
When creating your ideal vision for relationship, I highly recommend considering the above before you put your action plan in place.
For example, and can you relate to this? Many of my friends thought I was crazy when I began internet dating telling me that online dating was for losers. Online dating has fast become the number one place to meet eligible singles worldwide. So if you haven’t tried it, you might be missing out. This was the plan I chose and my dream fueled my desire to make new friends and meet new people. Can’t tell you how many times my friends would say I should meet someone organically and just let fate make it happen? How many of your friends have told you something similar?
Personally I see nothing wrong with having a dream of your ideal relationship, holding that vision in your heart and having a plan on how you will meet him… guess what? I did it just like this and I met my beloved online.
So here is my suggestion… when it comes to attracting love in your life, have a PLAN and NEVER give up on your DREAM.
Radlove says
That’s an inspiring article! I read a book years ago called, “God Is a Matchmaker”, by Derek Prince. He had supernaturally met his wife, who was 25 years older than him! It seemed so illogical that he and his woman agreed to take 3 months apart to really search their hearts to know if it was right. They had 30 happy years together, until she passed away in her 80s.
Of course everyone has his or her own ideas and beliefs, and I realize mine may not be shared by everyone. But I believe God is a Matchmaker, and I am holding out for His best. My faith has been shaken a number of times by intended realities that faded away.
But I still believe, through the heartaches and the waiting and the pain that I will be with the Man of my Dreams!
“What’s going to happen in your future should affect how you live today.” ~ Arden Autry