If He’s Not On Google, Is He Date-Worthy?
So when it comes to dating, mating and relating, what makes a man really worthy of your mind, body and heart?
Have you heard of sponge-worthy? You know, that Seinfeld skit about whether or not a man is worthy of “The Sponge.” With a scarcity of a popular contraceptive device called The Sponge, Elaine must decide if the man she is dating is worthy of using one of her last precious gems.
Now what about babysitter-worthy? Single or divorced mothers today faced with the high cost of babysitting services are now doing some real soul searching before committing to a date with a new man and forking out the big bucks for a babysitter.
So what about Google-worthy? You know, typing in your own name and coming up on the first page.
Would you date a man who isn’t Google-Worthy? If he’s not on Google, is he date-worthy?
Recently while chatting with a group of single women I heard the most astonishing comment. One of the women shared with the group that the reason she rejected a date with a man was for not finding him anywhere on Google. What, nothing? Nope, not a thing. How can anyone go their whole lives these days without anything digitally printed on Google? She went on to say she wouldn’t date a man who she couldn’t do a little Google background check on. She said single women need to be ultra careful and a little homework never hurts when dating men with no references or referrals.
So with the billions and billions of digital posts about everything in the world, what are the chances a person doesn’t have one mention on Google? Facebook or Twitter accounts all show up on Google. Maybe a high school graduation mention or a picture on Instagram? How about a donation to a political party?
Something usually comes up when you type in your own name, so what about someone you want to date if he isn’t Google-Worthy?
Is it a red flag if a person isn’t mentioned on Google these days (if so, why)?
What is your prerequisite for meeting someone you know nothing about? How much time and energy do you or should you put in meeting a potential romantic partner (especially before you give your mind, body & heart)? If you are meeting someone from an online dating site, how much do you trust the profile?
Great questions you ask Jonathon! As someone who belongs to your private FB Angel group, I can definitely say I’ve learned tons regarding this since I discovered you.
You have taught us Angels to believe in ourselves and to trust our intuition and judgement. We have learned what characteristics to look for in profiles as well as in all types of communications: messaging, texting, email, phone calls, in person and the various layers and levels that entails too.
As for Google worthy, I know what type of person isn’t going to show up. You’ve shown me again and again to ask myself the questions needed to see clearly whether his actions are in alignment with his words. I wouldn’t personally make a positive or negative decision based exclusively in Google.
On a happier note, maybe what you find on Google isn’t necessarily positive. There sure are a lot of factors to weigh in this dating, mating and relating scene!!
THANKS for all you do for us women!!!
In the past, I may have said it was no big deal. However, after a friend of mine started dating again, he deleted all traces of himself online (Facebook, Twitter, etc). At first he said it was because prospective employers look at that stuff. He later admitted it was partially because he wasn’t completely over his ex and didnt want her to know of this new relationship. He’s a serial cheater too, so it was probably an easy way to not have to explain the friend requests of women. Needlesstosay, I do think its a tiny red flag if a man has zero traces on the net.
Yea, now the world is so messed up. What if your man is not on google ? girls tend to ignore the good guys , when they are right in front of them ! Your website is really amazing ! Great post by the way. Check out my blog if you get some time ! Thanks ,
Great post Jonathon.Women have to be super careful these days, wherever wevare meeting men, whether in real life or online. If a friend introduces u, at least u can get the scoop on him from your friends. But friends are not going to introduce u if they think the guy is not suitable for u. Online now- U taught us angels that a background check is an absolute must.