As you may have heard, my son passed away a few weeks ago and if you watched the previous vlog you get a sense of where I’m at with all of this.
Over the next few posts, I’m going to share my thoughts and feelings… and lessons I am learning since his passing.
Today I’m going to talk about blame… and even blame in the dating, mating & relating realm.
Hope you find this valuable…
Please share your thoughts and feelings about what you’ve heard and let’s get a conversation going about blame in life or in love.
All my best.
Very helpful about blame. I have been known to blame passive behaviours of my ex and my entitled 21 year old for many of the stubborn challenges our family experienced. I can learn a lot from your memory of Connor and his ability at such a young age to not taking s*** from others while also being able share an openness for warm thoughtful relationships and meaningful conversations with you. I’ve always had the openness but was missing the ability to stand up for myself. If Connor was able to do this, I CAN TOO.
I am glad you can know your son is ok and it was like being asleep. Anyone who dies young misses things like marriage/kids etc…..didn’t get to experience it all. Maybe they accomplished their mission in life, but I would love to see all live to be 120 years old so they get wise/help others/mentor others/are healthy and have a full life. If there is reincarnation people may think they have another chance on this earth. If we only have one time on earth make it the best. Purpose of life is to learn to love. Love is the greatest commandment. Being in isolation doesn’t develop skills needed to interact with others as well. God did not mean for us to be alone. Gluten/GMO/vaccines are hurting many people so they suffer and health issues happen due to not absorbing nutrients in their intestines. I may get no grandkids…have only my cats. Are my sons missing out by not having kids or getting married? Fully participating in life is best, but people can do that in many ways. Helping others helps us. Other countries are asking Trump to help their country. God is real. There is too much hate/violence/anger/lies/twists/made up things/corruption. Maybe God is taking people off the earth to avoid much suffering that may happen. They said there maybe a mini ice age in 15 years that lasts 70 years. How will people survive/thrive? Keep talking about your son until you heal and you can move on to happier topics. God bless!
Yes very valuable words of wisdom. Sad for the loss of ur son, happy you can honor his memory with this post. Thank you for sharing you theories on death, and blame I found merit in your talking about Connor.
Yes, I agree. This was powerful especially when you connected it to the death of a relationship. I am going through an unexpected breakup where I was living together with someone I thought was The person I was building a future with. despite doing my best to not put blame on him for suddenly breaking up and deleting me, occasionally I fall to this victim card. Seeing your strength and hearing your words in such a difficult moment makes me realize how that is such wasted energy and that he was never mine to lose. That part is heart breaking to feel but your story puts things into perspective.
You are amazing Jonathan, the way you are handling what happened to Conner. I truly believe you being in the field that you’re in helped give you the wisdom to handle his death the way you are. I can’t wait to hear about your take on perspective. Thank you so much for sharing the way you doing. These are invaluable lessons to all of us.
So sorry for your loss. My son passed away from cancer at the age of 27. I did not blame anything or anyone but that didn’t lessen the pain of this experience. The reality of the situation took time for the reality to set in. I wish you all the best on your journey.
Sorry for losing Conner. My ❤️ Goes out to you. And thank you for the wisdom of the death of a relationship.
I am so sorry for the pain of losing your son, but thank you for sharing and being open and vulnerable during this time.
This is the first time I have come across your website and video. Your video just blew me away. Although I cannot begin to imagine the pain you must have gone through, I completely am familiar with wanting to blame someone for hurting and betraying me, so thank you for this video. I tend to see other videos and read other articles on your website, because I think I really need them. However, actually, the reason I came across this site is because I was looking to see who your photo belonged to. Because someone is using your picture for romance scamming on LinkedIn. The LinkedIn account goes by the name Adam Bates. I hate to be the barer of this news but thought I was so determined to let the real person in the picture know, once I figured out that the account was fake. I looked up ways to reverse lookup an image and found you. That scammer needs to be penalized and I am really appalled at those kinds of things but in a way I am grateful they led me to you.