How To Spot A Narcissist Without Breaking Your Heart
Whether you’re a man or woman, there is nothing more painful in the dating realm when one spends time with a person who only cares about their own needs.
Here’s the problem with labeling someone a narcissist, average selfish behavior is not the same and on some level, every human can act incredibly selfish (at times).
Today we are going to explore narcissistic behavior from the eyes of love.
Let’s talk about… How To Spot A Narcissist Without Breaking Your Heart
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Jonathon there are narcissists and there people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Two very different things. Someone who has narcissistic tendencies , which each of us has to some degree, might be dealing with insecurities or co dependency issues stemming from childhood trauma but can recognize this. Someone with NPD is a lot more dangerous as this disorder is on the DSM-5 for mental illness. It is untreatable since the part of the brain responsible for empathy never developed when this person was a child. The critical age when empathy forms is between 2 and 4 years of age . If a child is abused, experiences trauma or neglect at this stage they develop unhealthy coping mechanisms that are hardwired instead. I survived a 33 year marriage to someone like this . It was wrought with psychological abuse from the beginning to end including bullying and gaslighting. They are robot like and do not understand empathy at all nor object constancy . You are either all bad or all good. There is no gray area. They are only concerned with their own self. If you get sick you are inconveniencing them. If they cheat on you it’s because you didn’t cater to them. Mine carried on several affairs that I found out about later. My son was hit by a car at age nine and almost lost his foot and my ex scheduled a business trip the day of surgery. On the day I told him I wanted a divorce he looked me in the eye and deadpan said” Yeah I was thinking the same thing to. Is this going to be nasty or nice?” There was no startle effect whatsoever. He was like a cyborg. He didn’t cry when either of his parents died and seemed inconvenienced by their deaths. As soon as someone sees the signs you mentioned they need to run like hell and block that person. I’m sorry but they don’t deserve compassion . Compassion opens the door for them to abuse you. Their abuse has been known to drive partners to suicide. Run and don’t look back.