Do Men Date Differently than Women?
While I’m sure you’ve heard how men are visual creatures and they tend to focus on the physical aspects of a person, is this it for me?
What about women who tend to focus on the status of a man, is that true?
In today’s episode, we are going to explore the dating process from the perspective of how some men operate vs. how some women operate when it comes to dating, mating & relating.
Let’s talk about… Do Men Date Differently Than Women?
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I find it equally true that men care a lot about status too. Being asked “so, what do you do?” right off the bat is a big turn off for me personally as I feel that this immediately label’s you, and not necessarily in a true way. What difference does this make? I’d rather wait for our job status to come out eventually in the natural flow of the conversation and getting to know someone, but not right off the bat. I guess I am one of those rare women who don’t give a dang what the status of a man is. By the way, I’m really enjoying my daily dose of Jonathon with your YouTubes and podcasts.
Awe… thank you. BTW, starting next month I’ll be recording 2 Podcasts a week. Hope you enjoy.
Preach, Jonathon! Another high-quality, high-value video. I like how you couch generalizations about the genders. There are always exceptions to the rule.
Chemistry…UGH. People put way too much emphasis on that. I vet a man based on his intelligence, flexibility, values and generosity. I get why the expectation that the man will always pay for the date bothers you. I don’t want to obligate a guy to do that but to me, that’s how he knocks me off my feet. Frankly, if you take me to McDonald’s I won’t be the least impressed. On the first date, I want a nice dinner. Now mind you, I’m not going to order the lobster and run up the tab. That’s obnoxious. And I’m happy to cook for him and help pay the tip after the first date.
Frankly, money and status don’t mean much to me. I’m not like many women. I have my own income and can take care of myself. I drive a Lincoln, I have a sweet place to live just 3 miles from the beach. I’m an independent woman and always have been.
I love what you say about VALUES. To me, a great partnership starts with friendship. That’s how you build trust. Ask good questions, be vulnerable and educate yourself about healthy relationships.
I wish more men would date like you, with careful thoughts about what you want and need and then keeping the lady’s needs in mind. Selfishness is rampant in our society and it breaks my heart sometimes because as a Christian, I strive to NOT be selfish all the time. Jesus taught us about tolerance, compassion and LOVE.
You’re right about mid-life men. They have been wounded by divorce and don’t do the work to become more emotionally mature. When I ask them about what they’re seeking, they lie and say a long-term relationship (sometimes) and are really chasing sex without soul ties. They quickly learn that I’m no fool, I can tell if you’re a wham-bam, thank you ma’am guy.
Shallow men can go to hell, as far as I’m concerned. I don’t want them anywhere near me. The secret for women is to WAIT TO HAVE SEX until you get to know him and TRUST him, at the very least. I have to be in love to move to that, and if it takes months or even a year for that, so be it. As long as you’re honest with the man about your feelings.
I’ve learned that men appreciate directness in communication. Don’t be subtle. Obviously, you can’t be mean or thoughtless. Say it in a kind way but be firm. Love yourself first.
Thank you for your advice on this. Real love is an equal partnership, a meeting of the minds.
WOW! Thank you so much!