The Misconception About Men Valuing Women They Pursue
There seems to be a belief that if a man pursues a woman, he must value her and if this were true, then why so much frustration with the dating process?
Many folks have bought into the biology-based dating advice especially believing that men are hunters which is why they must lead the mating process.
For most women, they truly desire the man to lead because they feel this is a sign, he values her, and in a subconscious way she might believe she’s worthy as a result.
In today’s episode, we are going to explore the DEEPER understanding of how biology is not an indicator of relationship success if a man is pursuing.
Let’s talk about… Misconception About Men Valuing Women They Pursue
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Jonathon – you are just flat out brilliant! Thank you. Have to say you are the ONLY man on the planet who I will allow to yell at me! Tango – yeah, Scent of a Woman instantly comes to mind. How to learn about true appreciation – that would be pay attention to little kids. Grandson knows someone has driven up to the house so he asks his mom who it is. “Grandma, oh good I can stay in my underwear.” So, he runs out to greet me in his superhero underwear knowing no pretense of any kind with me and total appreciation on his part that I am there and totally me!
As far as break or broke. Yes, break me open. or I was broken wide open. Present tense versus past tense – even though example you gave was in the past you used it as present tense, I let a women break me open. Jonathon, please don’t pull your hair out, you have absolutely gorgeous hair, and such a handsome man for sure. Just keep yelling at us and curse away, and keep your hands away from your hair!
Again, thank you. this was simply over-the-top amazing and so very pertinent. Couldn’t agree more with the whole giving the lead to the wrong person.
Can I clone you? Thank you so much for the love. Honored to be of service…
Already been done – I cloned myself in my daughter and now she has created three more little clones. Shush, don’t tell anyone or they will come after us for the “secret.” Absolutely adore you, Jonathon. Thank you.
Blushing…
Aw, Jonathon. This is another wonderful video with solid advice. I believe you should make a video on the THREE A’s of a relationship. Affection, Attention and Appreciation. I can’t emphasize enough about how important all of those, but mostly appreciation, are in a healthy relationship.
For me, a big part of the reason my relationships have gone sour is due to lack of appreciation. I’m no fool, I’m not gonna keep giving and giving without some appreciation. When my parents, siblings, boss or anyone else criticizes my actions constantly, I refuse to put up with that treatment. I don’t need toxic people in my life.
As you say in your book, “Don’t let anyone f— with your Chi.”
Also, the funeral and your son Collin (or Colin) are great examples to show how we get bored with even the things we strive hard for.
As a cancer survivor, though, I realize exactly how precious life is. Not that I’m perfect, far from it. But I don’t get caught up in petty arguments and pointless revenge plots with anyone. That isn’t what LOVE would do.
You are so kind, thank you soooooooooooooo much. HUGS
I’m an editor. It should be “break” me open because it should be present tense, Jonathon dear. It’s easy to get your tenses mixed up. I see writers, even experienced ones, do it constantly. So don’t feel bad.
As Linda said, don’t tear your hair out. I know men who would KILL for your beautiful hair.
awe… 🙂
I would lose the video game analogy- humans too much more complex. And I’d love to hear your examples of how male “appreciation” gets demonstrated; how can one distinguish “pursuit” behavior from “appreciation” behavior? Thoroughly appreciate your content overall! You’re great!
While I appreciate that you see it that way, I believe the video game is a perfect example of how a person can work for something and then easily dismiss it… people often can treat others with a similar lack of appreciation. With that said, I could have used an example that hits closer to home from an age perspective of men and women over 40, but that one popped in my head because it felt relevant. Thanks for the feedback and kind comments. 🙂
Johnathon, it is so refreshing to hear someone go against the grain of society and give prudent, everlasting advice that is the foundation of ALL Loving Relationships, Friends, Parents, children, Family in general, etc.
Simple Fundamentals that build a strong foundation:
“A Mutual Effort of Time, Energy and resources!”
“We Value what we appreciate.”
“Daily Attention, Affection and Appreciation”
Took a Woman to gently caress your heart open.
Maybe she used a meat mallet on occasion. Haha jk
Aloha, Mahalo,
LindaLee <3
WOW LindaLee, thanks so much… sending smiles & hugs your way.