Vulnerability Can Trigger THIS Emotion With Men
There is this belief among many women that vulnerability is a weakness. Once something personal has been shared, this might trigger a deeper emotion on the other end.
Usually, a vulnerable moment in a romantic relationship is sharing something personal, uncertain how it will be received. This uncertainty can trigger fear which often blocks someone from sharing their true feelings and if these feelings get stuffed down, a whole host of other issues might arise.
In today’s episode, we are going to explore a DEEPER conversation centered around vulnerability which might shed light on the reason why being vulnerable in romantic relationships is so vitally important.
Let’s talk about… Vulnerability Can Trigger THIS Emotion with Men
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Jonathon, I’ll be honest with you. I will have to listen again because I am here drinking my tea just listening to what I consider a pleasant, safe voice. What I am right now is probably neither vulnerable nor vomiting. I am simply stunned. I am still reeling from the news of Eddie’s death and now I am stunned and crying over the complete devastation of Southern Oregon. Phoenix Oregon no longer exits. I told my sister yesterday who lost everything in the Paradise fire that Phoenix just became the next Paradise because there is nothing left. My daughter’s best friend lost her home. My son-in-law’s brother lost his home. My daughter was evacuated but the beautiful home they just moved into in Medford on August 27 was not touched by fire. My daughter told me yesterday that Ashland north of the Co-op burned. I just two weeks ago moved from that area to my apartment in Medford. I also moved out of my storage unit. My daughter said the storage units were intact but Harley Davidson across the street burned. The post office in Talent my daughter says is still there and the coffee shop is still standing, but the house I lived in a couple of years ago burned, along with all the homes on that side of Talent Ave. I have to drive Hwy 99 to go to post office today. I am already weeping just from what I have seen on the news and heard from others. I don’t know if my heart can handle the pain of seeing first hand the devastation.
Again, Jonathon, thank you for what you do for us and your wisdom. I will be back to listen when I can actually hear and understand. For now, just hearing your soothing voice while I rink my tea I am thankful for.
awe… thank you so much. HUGS!
Hi know, Johnathan how you feel being valurenable. Shared your feelings with someone and all they just stay quiet. No response.
I had experience where I shared my feelings and were not perceived and I feel I was judged and not cared for how I felt. I expressed myself, I poured my heart and was not perceived. The way I am trying to overcome, telling myself I am bigger person that I had guts to Express myself and I am honest.
I hope you feel better soon. We are all one energy and feel for you.
Thank you for sharing…
Thank you for being so vulnerable in this podcast! What great lessons you are passing on to all of us through your experience!! Being vulnerable is scary, and it is easy to keep it inside. It takes courage to speak your truth.
The right woman is searching for you, and it is so wonderful to have everything you say be received in the right way. Keep loving yourself!!
Honored you shared this… thank you.
Jonathon, I have listened again but interestingly apparently I heard very clearly what you were saying this morning when I first listened because in the midst of verifying my daughter and grandkids were safely out of town and away from the fire and smoke, and being certain my sister and nephew made it safely up to Oak Harbor, my mind was working on what you shared.
Jonathon, first of all I want to say that you are so incredibly brave in allowing yourself to be vulnerable in the way you did with her and in the way you do with us. I also want to say that you are so very courageous to recognize how shame and regret would not serve you well and to forgive yourself for allowing those feelings to overwhelm you for a time.
Now, what I especially would like you to know in the depths of your heart is that she blew it big time, first by choosing instant messaging over a phone call. It is simply not possible to get to know someone with words on a page unless, of course, it is a handwritten letter that is covered with the writer’s DNA which when you touch it will speak to your soul. Secondly, she blew it big time by reacting the way she did, or not reacting at all. At the very minimum she should have asked, “Am I understanding you correctly?”
Jonathon, I also want you to know that you are totally, absolutely correct when you say that you cannot say the wrong thing to the right person. You did not need to frame what you said differently, and there is no such thing as sharing too soon. Absolutely no good comes from holding back until the “right” time. The right person will be safe from the get go. The highest compliment I was ever paid was that I am “bat shit crazy.” This was followed up with the knowledge that his closest friends and those he would go to the wall for or die alongside are all “bat shit crazy.” Now, what exactly is bat shit crazy – that would be open, honest, authentic, and totally safe for someone, everyone, else to be exactly the same.
I love all your podcasts but I have to say this one touched me very deeply because I genuinely care about men and work extremely hard to be at least one person they encounter who is safe to do, be, say whatever they need to with no backlash, no correction, no disparaging words, just total complete acceptance that they are allowed to be who they are.
WOW! Thank you so much for sharing and your kind words, much appreciated.