6 Things That Make Up A Man's LOVE COMMITMENT STYLE - Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay

6 Things That Make Up A Man’s LOVE COMMITMENT STYLE

Have you ever heard of “Love Attachment Style?”

This is how we are imprinted (during childhood) to bond with our parents or our primary caregiver. In most cases, humans either become anxious or avoidant to love based on their upbringing. And this is one of the reasons why so many romantic relationships are dysfunctional because many folks haven’t healed their love attachment style.

But here’s the thing, how a person commits to another is much different and until we learn a person’s love commitment style, dating will be pointless, leading to more frustration.

In today’s episode, we are going to explore the DEEPER conversation of human behavior and why so much dating advice is useless.

Let’s talk about… 6 Things That Make Up A Man’s LOVE COMMITMENT STYLE

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Linda Curtis says

January 21, 2021 at 1:24 pm

Hey Jonathon, blending families is possible (believe it or not). My daughter is testament to this. I won’t go into the amazing particulars, but know that she very successfully has blended children and fathers harmoniously. But, yes, rare indeed. This is to say people create the reality they want to create. If it turns out to be strife and discord it may not be intentional but, yes, they created it.

Yes, Jonathon, I am always “tracking” you. Your brilliance is readily understood and resonates with me. I do believe the largest factor in “socialization” is religious upbringing. This more than actual parenting digs huge grooves in our brain as to accepted and unaccepted behaviors, and this is both sexes, possibly even more damaging for males. This is where the imprinting largely occurs and it is so difficult to erase those imprints and actually view things in a healthy way. It goes way beyond 12 years, Jonathon. The most rigid, damaging imprints were actually in high school and college (church-based college). Healing childhood wounds is easy compared to healing those deep, deep imprints which takes many trips to hell and back to face those demons i.e. many, many dark nights of the soul.

Jonathon, one huge, gigantic thing that you probably are aware of but many people aren’t is that although talking to therapists is always helpful on some level, it doesn’t erase those imprints. You can think you have healed wounds from a first marriage to find out that you were triggered in a second relationship totally out of the blue. You literally have to go down to hell and face those demons, face them in a shouting match and then forgive, truly forgive, them for the abuse and you for allowing yourself to be abused. Talking to a therapist heals some things but not those deep imprints, sadly. Much more difficult soul work necessary.

Jonathon, I am finding this podcast so informative – be back to listen to the second half. I have to finish this job I’m on, which is beyond boring by comparison! Thank you, Jonathon, once again for your insight which is truly phenomenal.

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Linda Curtis says

January 21, 2021 at 1:24 pm

Hey Jonathon, blending families is possible (believe it or not). My daughter is testament to this. I won’t go into the amazing particulars, but know that she very successfully has blended children and fathers harmoniously. But, yes, rare indeed. This is to say people create the reality they want to create. If it turns out to be strife and discord it may not be intentional but, yes, they created it.

Yes, Jonathon, I am always “tracking” you. Your brilliance is readily understood and resonates with me. I do believe the largest factor in “socialization” is religious upbringing. This more than actual parenting digs huge grooves in our brain as to accepted and unaccepted behaviors, and this is both sexes, possibly even more damaging for males. This is where the imprinting largely occurs and it is so difficult to erase those imprints and actually view things in a healthy way. It goes way beyond 12 years, Jonathon. The most rigid, damaging imprints were actually in high school and college (church-based college). Healing childhood wounds is easy compared to healing those deep, deep imprints which takes many trips to hell and back to face those demons i.e. many, many dark nights of the soul.

Jonathon, one huge, gigantic thing that you probably are aware of but many people aren’t is that although talking to therapists is always helpful on some level, it doesn’t erase those imprints. You can think you have healed wounds from a first marriage to find out that you were triggered in a second relationship totally out of the blue. You literally have to go down to hell and face those demons, face them in a shouting match and then forgive, truly forgive, them for the abuse and you for allowing yourself to be abused. Talking to a therapist heals some things but not those deep imprints, sadly. Much more difficult soul work necessary.

Jonathon, I am finding this podcast so informative – be back to listen to the second half. I have to finish this job I’m on, which is beyond boring by comparison! Thank you, Jonathon, once again for your insight which is truly phenomenal.

- Jonathon Aslay says
  
  January 21, 2021 at 4:11 pm
  
  Thank you so much, I’m honored you like the message…

6 Things That Make Up A Man’s LOVE COMMITMENT STYLE