Say Exactly THIS When He Starts To Pull Away (Don't Lean Back)

Say Exactly THIS When He Starts To Pull Away (Don’t Lean Back)

Very often men who want a relationship really have no idea how to build a steady relationship. They don’t understand the need to have a foundation with their partner that revolves around honesty, integrity, and vulnerability.

Instead, some men will get quiet and moody when they’re faced with stress or other difficulties. When their partners call them out about their moods, they get even MORE quiet and wonder why their partner is nagging them. Some will even complain, “Can’t she see that I’m struggling?”

Today’s episode will explore the DEEPER reasons why men get quiet and pull away when they should be reaching out instead to their partner. Whether that response stems from childhood lessons or a divorce in their past, we’ll talk about what to say instead so he’ll open up to you.

Let’s talk about…Say Exactly THIS When He Starts To Pull Away (Don’t Lean Back)

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Roberta says

October 5, 2021 at 1:25 pm

Hello Jonathon,
The note you received from the woman calling you a narcissist and attacking you for talking about your son’s death was written by someone who sorely lacks empathy and has no idea of what it’s like to lose a beloved family member. Comments like that can hurt a person to the core and can result in questioning one’s self, but in my opinion grief is sacred. Nobody gets to hurt you over how you choose to express grief for the loss of your son. Anyone who does is not worthy of your time.
I’ve listened to many of your podcasts and value the perspective you bring to the world of dating. Women need to hear what men think, and your ideas are helpful. I want you to succeed in this profession. That being said, there is something that concerns me. You’ve mentioned a time in your life which was a dark time of losing an important job and using drugs. You also told a story about a date where you drank too much and became belligerent, calling it “alcohol poisoning.” I’m wondering if all the work you’ve done in terms of spiritual self help has included any work on alcohol dependency. Lately, several of your podcasts have included cocktails. In this particular podcast, you professed to being ill, were taking Tramadol, and also drinking cocktails during the podcast. It concerns me. Your tone during the cocktail podcasts seems to change, becoming more loose and bordering on “wild” when you are having cocktails. I’m worried that you may have problems with alcohol and are a person who should not be drinking at all. I’m worried that drinking could become the thing that limits you from taking this business to a higher level. I grew up with an alcoholic father and am very familiar with the signs. My question to you is, “Why are you drinking cocktails during a professional podcast?” Are you intentionally trying to make yourself seem more down-to-earth and human? It’s not working for me. The fact that you would choose to drink alcohol while sick, while taking prescription medication, and while working on a podcast shows me that alcohol is a very important part of your life, with a priority placed above common sense and good health. Is it possible that your grief is being relieved by alcohol? This is common, as having to handle grief while living alone can be enormously challenging. I lost my spouse to unexpected death at a young age and know how devastating loss can be. Are you getting any help with your grief process? I don’t know you, and apologize for making any assumptions. Just know that your work is valued and appreciated, and I want you to be happy and successful. Sometimes it’s difficult to be objective, and I hope my thoughts can be accepted in a spirit of compassionate concern.

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Roberta says

October 5, 2021 at 1:25 pm

Hello Jonathon,
The note you received from the woman calling you a narcissist and attacking you for talking about your son’s death was written by someone who sorely lacks empathy and has no idea of what it’s like to lose a beloved family member. Comments like that can hurt a person to the core and can result in questioning one’s self, but in my opinion grief is sacred. Nobody gets to hurt you over how you choose to express grief for the loss of your son. Anyone who does is not worthy of your time.
I’ve listened to many of your podcasts and value the perspective you bring to the world of dating. Women need to hear what men think, and your ideas are helpful. I want you to succeed in this profession. That being said, there is something that concerns me. You’ve mentioned a time in your life which was a dark time of losing an important job and using drugs. You also told a story about a date where you drank too much and became belligerent, calling it “alcohol poisoning.” I’m wondering if all the work you’ve done in terms of spiritual self help has included any work on alcohol dependency. Lately, several of your podcasts have included cocktails. In this particular podcast, you professed to being ill, were taking Tramadol, and also drinking cocktails during the podcast. It concerns me. Your tone during the cocktail podcasts seems to change, becoming more loose and bordering on “wild” when you are having cocktails. I’m worried that you may have problems with alcohol and are a person who should not be drinking at all. I’m worried that drinking could become the thing that limits you from taking this business to a higher level. I grew up with an alcoholic father and am very familiar with the signs. My question to you is, “Why are you drinking cocktails during a professional podcast?” Are you intentionally trying to make yourself seem more down-to-earth and human? It’s not working for me. The fact that you would choose to drink alcohol while sick, while taking prescription medication, and while working on a podcast shows me that alcohol is a very important part of your life, with a priority placed above common sense and good health. Is it possible that your grief is being relieved by alcohol? This is common, as having to handle grief while living alone can be enormously challenging. I lost my spouse to unexpected death at a young age and know how devastating loss can be. Are you getting any help with your grief process? I don’t know you, and apologize for making any assumptions. Just know that your work is valued and appreciated, and I want you to be happy and successful. Sometimes it’s difficult to be objective, and I hope my thoughts can be accepted in a spirit of compassionate concern.

- Jonathon Aslay says
  
  October 9, 2021 at 4:48 pm
  
  Thank you for your kindness…
  
Sue says

October 6, 2021 at 1:43 am

Great points made in this podcast. Very insightful.

- Jonathon Aslay says
  
  October 9, 2021 at 4:47 pm
  
  Thanks so much…

Say Exactly THIS When He Starts To Pull Away (Don’t Lean Back)