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He Says He’s Not Ready For A Relationship, KNOW THIS!

I love connecting with people whenever I have the opportunity and lately when I’m talking to other guys, no matter what the age, they express a frustration with dating. Just as you women complain there aren’t any nice guys who want a serious relationship, men can also feel the same way.

Believe it or not, there IS such a thing as dating fatigue. It comes about after multiple times trying to connect on a deeper level with a partner but that intimacy and vulnerability isn’t reciprocated. The easy thing to do is fall to the old excuse, “I’m not ready for a relationship,” but it’s really a deeper hint that the man is tired of trying.

Today’s episode will explore the DEEPER reasons why dating fatigue occurs and how it can be nipped before a good partnership falls apart.

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Roberta says

January 15, 2022 at 6:12 pm

Thank you for this discussion of dating fatigue. Your thoughts echo my own, in that it does require a great deal of effort, enthusiasm, work, personal sacrifice, and baring of souls to participate in the dating process. The disappointment can be defeating, when potential partner’s true selves are eventually revealed and you realize they would never work out on a long term basis. Then, you have to begin the process all over again.
Years ago, immediately following the unexpected experience of becoming widowed, an assortment of men approached me (seemingly clueless of respecting any grief process), including several married men who were seeking affairs. So, my introduction to the dating process included having to fend off men while in a state of deep shock. Five years after my husband’s death, I tried dating for a period of about five years. It was quite an experience, with a varied cast of characters. The combination of being forced to be negatively assertive in years when I was adapting to loss and raising children, followed by a period of intentional exploration of dating, led me to finally throw in the towel on the entire idea. I decided to take a break from dating, which evolved into a lifestyle. If I met someone interesting in the course of everyday life, that would be great, but otherwise, I was done with trying to get to know total strangers, many of whom lived too far away. Then, the pandemic arrived, putting the brakes on having any kind of normal, everyday social life. In retrospect, I’m not sure I made the right decision. It was true that I needed to spend some time thinking about how to date more effectively, and how to eliminate my natural tendency to put everyone else’s needs ahead of my own. But now, I realize that it’s not fun to be experiencing the stresses of the world alone. It would be much healthier to have someone to share the ups and downs of life with, especially while getting older. Human beings were not meant to be alone, and love is the most important thing in our lives on this planet. Sure, I have lots of love from my adult children, grandchildren, and friends. But it could be ever so much sweeter to have someone to curl up with on cold, wintery, pandemic nights. So, my advice to anyone taking a much-needed break because of dating fatigue would be to set a time limit in it, and make a goal of trying again at a certain point in time.

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Roberta says

January 15, 2022 at 6:12 pm

Thank you for this discussion of dating fatigue. Your thoughts echo my own, in that it does require a great deal of effort, enthusiasm, work, personal sacrifice, and baring of souls to participate in the dating process. The disappointment can be defeating, when potential partner’s true selves are eventually revealed and you realize they would never work out on a long term basis. Then, you have to begin the process all over again.
Years ago, immediately following the unexpected experience of becoming widowed, an assortment of men approached me (seemingly clueless of respecting any grief process), including several married men who were seeking affairs. So, my introduction to the dating process included having to fend off men while in a state of deep shock. Five years after my husband’s death, I tried dating for a period of about five years. It was quite an experience, with a varied cast of characters. The combination of being forced to be negatively assertive in years when I was adapting to loss and raising children, followed by a period of intentional exploration of dating, led me to finally throw in the towel on the entire idea. I decided to take a break from dating, which evolved into a lifestyle. If I met someone interesting in the course of everyday life, that would be great, but otherwise, I was done with trying to get to know total strangers, many of whom lived too far away. Then, the pandemic arrived, putting the brakes on having any kind of normal, everyday social life. In retrospect, I’m not sure I made the right decision. It was true that I needed to spend some time thinking about how to date more effectively, and how to eliminate my natural tendency to put everyone else’s needs ahead of my own. But now, I realize that it’s not fun to be experiencing the stresses of the world alone. It would be much healthier to have someone to share the ups and downs of life with, especially while getting older. Human beings were not meant to be alone, and love is the most important thing in our lives on this planet. Sure, I have lots of love from my adult children, grandchildren, and friends. But it could be ever so much sweeter to have someone to curl up with on cold, wintery, pandemic nights. So, my advice to anyone taking a much-needed break because of dating fatigue would be to set a time limit in it, and make a goal of trying again at a certain point in time.

- Jonathon Aslay says
  
  February 2, 2022 at 10:51 am
  
  Thank you for sharing…

He Says He’s Not Ready For A Relationship, KNOW THIS!